The importance of being selfish 

To kick this post off I want to say that when I say ‘selfish’ I am not writing about stealing a seat on the train from a pregnant lady because you’ve got a blister or forcing your partner to drive you to the shops even though he’s broken his leg. In those cases being selfish really is not the best idea! This post is about those times where you put your happiness and mental health on the line for the sake of other people.

I am writing about why it is bad to stay in a toxic friendship because you don’t want to upset your “friend”. I’m talking about why you shouldn’t turn down other, better jobs because you’re too scared of telling your boss. I’m talking about how it is not okay to let your partner take advantage of you because it’s much easier to just agree than to have an argument.

It’s time to start changing your mindset. For every friend out there that makes you feel guilty for missing a night out because your anxiety is particularly bad, there are hundreds of people out there who would love to spend a night in with you binge watching Ru Pauls drag race. For every job that gives you sleepless nights and a sick feeling in your stomach when the 8am alarm goes off, there are hundreds of jobs that will have you staying at your desk at lunch because you want to not because you have to. For every partner that makes you feel unloved or unwanted, there are hundreds of people out there that will admire and appreciate you for everything you do. There are over 7 billion people on this planet and around 5 billion jobs so don’t settle for anything less than what makes you happy.

When it comes down to it the only person you really have to please in life is yourself so it’s time to be selfish and put yourself first. Be friends with people that make you happy, work in a job that you actually enjoy, love someone who will love you back with all their heart because YOU DESERVE IT!

As Mama Odie says in one of my favourite Disney films (I couldn’t resist) … “Dig down deep inside yourself, You’ll found out what you need, Blue skies and sunshine guaranteed!”

Go and grab another cuppa on me, Em x

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I grew up in a small English town just south of London with my parents and older brother. I was a very inquisitive child, with a love for dogs and a strong belief that I was a Disney character. None of that has changed, now I just have a greater appreciation for a good cup of tea (one sugar and a lil bit of milk) I am currently a second year graphic design student at Norwich University of the Arts and still learning my way through life. This blog is a chance for you to relax, grab a cup of tea and learn along with me.

6 thoughts on “The importance of being selfish ”

  1. Loved this – if something is actively making you unhappy, you should be free to change it without having to worry about what others think. So important to put your own mental health and happiness first! xx

    Sophie | Sophar So Good

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  2. Forgetting to put yourself first is something so many people do and there are always drastic consequences! This is a really good post and being selfish isn’t always a bad thing x

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